Purpose can be seen as our need for there to be meaning to our actions. We want to feel that when we do something, there was a reason and that it may have some greater meaning. __ Source
Dangerous Children grow up with a strong sense of purpose, by virtue of how they are raised. Persons who reach adulthood without a significant sense of purpose — or with a counterproductive sense of purpose — will have a difficult struggle finding a meaningful purpose at that late stage.
For children to develop a meaningful sense of purpose, parents will need to utilise natural instincts — such as the tendency of young children to imitate family members — and the early love of learning that virtually all children must possess. Early instincts must be converted into lifelong habits, such as a lifelong love of learning, a love of solving difficult problems, a habit of inventing new ways of meeting human needs, a sense of adventure and discovery, habits of achievement and building, and a sense of inner and outer harmony.
All of the above habits-to-be-cultivated go hand in hand with the dangerous skills that Dangerous Children will master. But for the entire constellation of habits and skills to add meaning to the child’s life, they must be linked together by a sense of purpose — or interlocking senses of purposes and consistent goals.
A sense of purpose must have depth, and the ability to face difficult problems, if it is not to die in the face of overwhelming challenge.
A sense of purpose goes hand in hand with optimism. Optimism itself is closely related to “optimise” etymologically. In order to optimise one’s life or one’s world, one must have worked out a sequence of goals of different time range — short, medium, and long.
Purpose, optimism, resilience, challenge, and a sequenced plan — with allowances for contingencies — all play a part in a meaningful life. Most bright humans without an immediate challenge will tend to find one.
Some people promote optimism as a cure-all for everything. To be fair, the linked article on optimism provides a few ways of developing optimism. But it isn’t that easy for many people, in many situations.
This short article provides a few more helpful hints on developing optimism, and links the ideas of optimism and purpose.
If children have not been trained to love difficult problems or puzzles, they may turn away from a challenge that seems too daunting. It is up to parents and connected persons to imbue the love of a difficult challenge into the child. Otherwise, entire generations can be lost, and a civilisation put in danger of extinction.
But if children have adopted purposeful habits of achievement and problem-solving, they are more likely to persist against daunting challenges.
We must also consider motivation, and how natural drives and motivations can be recruited to serve the child’s greater purpose and long-term goals.
So, what exactly is motivation? The simplest definition that I have found is: “a reason for doing something” (Macmillan Dictionary). In other words, motivation is what causes us to act – to do what we do.
… We do the things we do (act) to fulfil either a ‘need’ or a ‘want’. Needs are things that are necessary for our survival, development, and ongoing well-being; wants are things that we can actually do without. Simplistically, a person walking across a stretch of arid desert ‘needs’ adequate water to survive; the same person, feeling the heat of the sun, may ‘want’ a drink of chilled water.
In some cases, our actions may be impulsive and spontaneous, completely unplanned. At other times, they may be deliberate, measured, and quite intentional. When we act impulsively, we are reacting to things like feelings, habits, conditioning (from training), fears, and pain. Deliberate actions are likely to be a result of thoughts, values, beliefs, and choices. __ http://freezapnuggets.com/wordpress/?p=906
Our natural instincts and drives must be knit into a larger fabric of habits, goals, useful dispositions (optimism), and sense of purpose.
If we have worked to build an integrated set of good habits, motivations, dispositions, goal network, and sense of purpose — we are more likely to persevere to the end.
It should be repeated that all of these ideas are taken into account in The Dangerous Child Method. Although each Dangerous Child will require a different sequence of training — and different training content — the important core ingredients will be included for each one.