Michael Jordan, one of the world’s greatest athletes, has spent years preaching the importance of losing. Jordan has spoken extensively about how perseverance and resilience in the face of challenges on and off the court are what have made him a winner.
Unfortunately, as the world puts increased pressure on kids to be winners, and parents feel compelled to enable them in every way possible, we’re seeing more and more kids who become distraught over even the smallest misstep.
Determination, Perseverance, Grit, Resilience
Kids benefit from experiencing failure. We know this and yet it’s hard for adults to accept. In fact, many parents equate good parenting with preventing their kids from struggling.
In The Gift of Failure, author and teacher Jessica Lahey details the consequences of this approach. She says challenging experiences are the only way we develop certain coping and problem-solving skills. If we shield children from adversity, key brain connections cannot develop.
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…children that don’t have opportunities to fail or struggle and recover have lower self-confidence and a less developed self-concept. They tend to be more fearful of failure and less willing to try new things because they don’t know how they will handle it.
Constant Praise and Protection Prevents Developmment
An entire generation has grown up believing that they are “special” in every way. If they fail, they are told it is someone else’s fault. Centuries-old institutions are overturned in the effort to eliminate any tests or comparisons which may show the child in an inferior light. No wonder these children are stopped cold by the smallest failure — which assumes impossibly large proportions in the child’s mind.
When thrown into the maelstrom of social media and harsh judgments and comparisons of their peers, these children are not prepared. They have not had the opportunity to build inner strength, resilience, and grit. No wonder girls do not know if they are girls and boys do not know if they are boys.
The whole system is stacked to keep them in a weak and easily triggered state, so that authorities and information gatekeepers can tell them day is night and black is white. They become pinballs in a media-sphere of crazy-making. Most of all, they have never learned who they are.
Most kids are afraid to fail and, as parents and teachers, we naturally want our kids to succeed. But what if we recognized failure is good and a crucial step on the path to learning?
Failure is a necessary component of success (NOT the opposite). In fact, our brains grow and develop in important ways whenever failures occurs. When kids understand this concept, amazing things can happen for them (and for us).
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Today’s dysfunctional method of child-raising and education is designed to make children fear failure. They are paralyzed by failures they have never been prepared for.
When children instead learn to embrace failure as opportunities to learn and adjust their approach, they become tougher and more resilient. Future failures are more likely to boost them further and higher. This is a lesson they will not be taught in schools, where teachers are more concerned about wokeness and gender-affirming.
Do the best you can. Do that, while understanding that your children are facing genuine malevolence out there in the schools, in social media, on the internet, on the streets, in the marketplace. They need every ounce of that perseverance, grit, and toughness.
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